Saturday, November 6, 2010

More Rambling.. snb

JEALOUSLY..

I'm amazed at how much jealously can differ. Everybody likes
to say "I never get jealous". These are the people probably 
unaware of the levels of their personality. Most of the 
time you hear the word Jealously when referring to 
relationships. And usually this is when people find it 
the hardest to admit their jealous. Nobody and I mean 
nobody likes to admit their jealous. My first encounter 
with Jealously came along when I was around 9. My 
younger cousin had come to Maryland from Philly to 
stay with us for a weekend. Now me and her NEVER got 
along. She always annoyed the living shit outta me, and she
felt the same about me. So since I was like 9 she had to be 
about 7. The thing that made me super jealous was when I 
saw my cousin..who I couldn't stand laying on my moms
lap. I was pissed. That was my spot. And my mom even got 
mad at me for being mad. Let me breakdown how Jealously 
goes in my head.


RELATIONSHIPS 
I think the main reason Females get Jealous of anything
is because the fact that your man is giving something or 
someone more attention then you is annoying as fuck! 
That's because (and women will lie about this), females 
LOVEand need attention from their man. Don't believe me? 
Think deeper for a second. When your in the process of 
trying to get a girl, what do you do that your not doing to 
any other girl? Your making her laugh or talking to her,
getting to know her, whatever! My point is your paying
her attention and not the other females in the room. 
I know and I have been guilty of  Keeping a guy around I 
didn't really like that much and couldn't see us ever going
anywhere, for the simple fact that he showed me 
attention. Just like how girls get mad when the guy they 
were giving the run around goes off and finds a new girl 
even though they don't like him. They're mad their loosing 
the attention, not the man. I think I get jealous of my 
boyfriend and his inanimate objects more then any female. 
I trust him so I don't really worry he'll cheat or anything.
It's the dam Ps3, computer and BB I had to worry about. 
Like I have 3 days with you and instead of us doing 
something together you wanna play video games or be
on the computer or on your phone. Its kinda insulting. 
Makes you feel like you boring them. Plus my baby can't 
multitask for shit. lol He's gotten a lot better about it though.
Men don't really understand how annoying that can be. 
Its kinda like If I made you watch an entire Project Runway
or America's Next Top Model marathon. You would be sitting
there bored out you damn mind. And see the thing about 
boredom is that it very quickly turns into irritability.
Then there are the females that get jealous of other females
that's their boyfriend is around. I very rarely can get like this.
Sometimes its insecurity. Like the girls who don't trust their 
man around any female. Ion get that way. 
The "female Friends" you boyfriend has can spark that jealously 
at times. Thing about that is if your bf hardly pays you 
attention anyway, and then has a shit load of female friends
he's always with or always talking to. Then I could understand
why you could get jealous. Its all goes back to attention to 
me in that case. I don't have a problem with any female 
friends unless shes disrespectful or she takes up my time.


For instance, my friend Trey was telling me about why his 
girlfriend broke up with him. She got mad because everytime
she was with him, he was texting his "besties". He was
actually canceling their plans to go do stuff for his 
"besties". I told Him, well yeah Trey I can see why she got
mad. His point was his besties came first so they were
more important. My biggest question was why couldn't his
friends respect the fact that he was with his girlfriend and 
call him back later or something? When you have females
that do that, that's when your girlfriend will start to 
question the intentions of this female. That's why its 
important to introduce your girlfriend to the important 
other females in your life so she can be comfortable with them.
Now I know some male is reading this thinking what I'm
saying is dumb or females like that are just insecure. I 
agree insecurity can have something to do with it. But everyone
has some insecurity in them. Open your mind for a sec. 
I told trey lets say you and you girlfriend were 
spending time together and her male bff calls her. And she 
has a 20 minute convo about something and your just 
sitting there. Then she tells him "Oh I'm with my boyfriend", 
but they continue to have their little conversation. You 
will be feeling some kind of way. I think guys have a 
hard time understanding the attention struggle because 
they get all the attention in the world and when they don't
they just leave the girl .. 
Like i said this is me rambling. But this is kinda my little
view on jealously in relationships. My theory probably has
some flaws..and typos. But oh well its my blog *shrugs* lol


I won't even get into Jealously between same sexes. Ill save 
that for another post.